Being More…Doing Less Each year on New Year’s Day we arrive in Oaxaca. 2019 was no different! It is such a wonderful feeling after being on the road for a week to finally get out of the car and breathe in the warm air and soak up the sunshine. Continue reading “Being More…Doing Less”
Metrics for Success: Which Leadership Assessment is Right for You and Your Team? There are dozens of assessment tools to choose from if you are a CEO, manager, human resources professional, board member, or community leader. As your partner, Vista Global helps you cut through the clutter and match your needs to the industry’s leading assessments. The first step when selecting the right assessment is to determine your desired outcome. Do you want to use the assessment to help leaders see their blind spots and be more successful with their teams? Do you want teams to be more effective working together? Do you want to support leaders in building more effective interpersonal skills? Based on your desired outcome, Vista Global partners with you throughout the assessment process. Three of the most trusted assessments are detailed below. Leadership Practices Inventory 360 Developed using the Leadership Challenge framework research by Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner, the Leadership Practices Inventory (LPI)® assessments help you gain clarity on your vision and purpose. These tools are designed to help you develop your skills within the Five Practices of Exemplary Leadership. The LPI 360 measures 30 specific leadership behaviors on a 10-point scale. This tool is self-administered and is completed by observers such as co-workers, managers, and the staff you manage, giving you a complete picture of your leadership strengths and areas for improvement. The Leadership Challenge framework also offers the Student LPI, specifically designed for high school and collegiate students in leadership roles. StrengthsFinder The leading benchmark for understanding an individual’s talents, the Gallup StrengthsFinder assessment, provides a customized inventory of your unique talents. Based on the book by Gallup executive Tom Rath and the survey work of his grandfather at the University of Nebraska, Donald Clifton, this tool is designed to build on your strengths first and foremost. A person’s talents – those thoughts, feelings, behaviors that come naturally – are the source of his or her true potential. Contrary to traditional professional development that focuses on fixing weaknesses, Gallup’s research proves that building on talents increases employee engagement, productivity, retention and organizational profitability. TalentSmart Emotional Intelligence Research shows that a leader’s emotional intelligence (or EQ) is the single greatest predictor of success. Using the TalentSmart assessment, Vista Global helps you assess your EQ and improve the interpersonal skills you need to achieve your personal and professional goals. The most simplified individual assessment takes about 10 minutes and delivers scores on key components of your EQ such as self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. Are you looking to get started with a leadership development initiative? Contact Mary today to discuss what assessment is right for you. Photo credit: Rawpixel via Shutterstock.
Avoid Blind Spots to Navigate the Conversational Highway This is the fourth in a blog series on the course I am taking on Conversational Intelligence by Judith E. Glaser. The fourth module called, “Navigating Conversations” provides tools to remap relationships around trust and navigate conversations successfully. When things start to go awry in conversations it is often due to conversational blind spots. If you can become more aware of these blind spots, you can foster trust in your communications with others. Conversational Blind Spots Blind Spot #1: Assuming everyone thinks like you (or should think like you). When you are engrossed and attached to your point of view, you are unable to connect with others’ perspectives. Are you addicted to being right or winning a debate? During a conversation, you may subconsciously sense a lack of connectivity, and kick into persuasion mode to go for the win! Winning a debate, whether the debate is real or perceived, triggers the neurochemical dopamine. This dopamine release makes you feel good and you may not even realize that in the process you have made others feel bad. Blind Spot #2: Feelings change your reality. This common blindspot refers to your failure to realize that your emotions will change how you see and interpret reality, which in turn, changes how you communicate that reality. If you are in a state of fear or distrust, you produce cortisol which shuts down the prefrontal cortex part of your brain, the area that gives you access to empathy, strategic thinking, and innovation. This causes you to feel threatened and move into protective behaviors which can hinder a productive conversation. Blind Spot #3: You are too fearful to empathize. Blind Spot #2 can easily lead to blind spot #3. If you are fearful, you are unable to consider another person’s perspective in order to build empathy and understanding. Research done by Giacomo Rizzolatti in 1999 determined that our brains have unique neurons called mirror neurons. These neurons give us a view into what others feel, think and intend. When you listen deeply and turn off your fear and judgment, you allow yourself to connect with others. When you are fearful, the ability to connect is broken and your sensitivity to others recedes. Blind Spot #4: You remember, therefore you know. This blind spot is that you think you remember what others said when actually you remember what you THINK about what others said. Researchers as early as 1957, published articles on the gaps in listening. People drop out of listening because the brain processes information much faster than we can talk. Instead of slowing down the brain to the rate of the spoken word, you fill those gaps with other thoughts. Your internal dialogue overrides the other person’s speech. You then remember what you think about what the other person said because it is a stronger internal process and chemical signal. Blind Spot #5: You are listening so you think you actually know what others really mean. The assumption that meaning resides with the speaker, when it actually resides with the listener, characterizes this blind spot. As you listen you are trying to make meaning from the speaker’s words by drawing from your own experience vault in your limbic brain. That is why, as a listener, what you see in your “mind’s eye” can be a completely different picture than what the speaker sees in their mind. Meaning resides in the listener until the speaker takes the time to pause, and validate that you share the same mental picture and meaning. All humans have blind spots. They spring from reality gaps. Even when we are in the same room, you will come way from the experience with different impressions and a different understanding of time spent together. That is why conversational rituals and practices outlined in C-IQ methodologies are so important. These rituals harmonize our experiences, create a shared language, and help us bridge and connect with others more fully. How do we make the invisible blind spots visible? Stay tuned for our next blog that explores levels of open-ended questions designed to help you better navigate the conversations. Photo credit: OHoHO via Shutterstock.
It is Never Too Early to Develop Your Leadership Skills There is so much literature about leadership development in the professional space, whether it is the corporate or social sector. However, leadership development begins as soon as children have the capability to experience self-awareness. Children begin their leadership journey when they learn how to share, to communicate appreciation, and to talk about their dreams. These experiences are all building blocks of leadership. One of my current clients, the National Society of Black Engineers (NSBE) believes at its core that it is never too early to develop leadership skills. The mission of NSBE is to increase the number of culturally responsible Black Engineers who excel academically, succeed professionally, and positively impact the community. NSBE is a student-governed national organization committed to youth leadership development for more than 40 years. Vista Global has been working with NSBE to design and implement a comprehensive leadership development curriculum that builds students’ competencies. Several of those competencies focus on defining and understanding yourself as a leader. The first phase of any leadership program is examining your own leadership talents and skills. You have to know yourself before you can bring out the best in others. Vista Global relies on the field’s best methodologies and tools to help clients strengthen their leadership skills, including the framework of The Leadership Challenge by Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner. This framework is effective because it was developed by conducting thousands of interviews of ordinary managers talking about a personal best experience when they had extraordinary results. Through these interviews and surveys, the researchers arrived at Five Practices that were universally demonstrated by these leaders. The Five Practices include: Model the Way Inspire a Shared Vision Challenge the Process Enable Others to Act Encourage the Heart This framework is one of the few resources that has a customized design for student leaders, including a 360 Student Leadership Practice Inventory (SLPI) assessment tool. It evaluates 30 specific behaviors (6 for each practice). It is a clear and concise way to determine how well a leader demonstrates a Practice. The 360 degree aspect of the assessment includes observers that have seen the leader in action and can offer their perspective on the frequency of demonstration of behaviors. This last weekend, I met with 80 members of the NSBE Collegiate leadership to review their individual results from the SLPI and start the process of developing a leadership action plan. Each student determined one specific behavior to work on over the next month and identified an accountability partner to provide support and encouragement. Leadership development is a lifelong journey and the NSBE leaders have a jump start on many leaders in the work force! If you are interested in learning more about The Leadership Challenge or 360 assessments, contact Mary today.
Creating the Environment: Moving from Distrust to Trust This is the third in a blog series about the course on Conversational Intelligence by Judith E. Glaser. The third module called, “Aspiring Conversations” explores the neurochemistry of aspirations and how different conversations activate chemicals that either open or close the space for aspirations to grow. A recent Harvard Business Review article by Paul Zak, “The Neuroscience of Trust” states that employees in high-trust cultures have 100% more energy at work, 76% more engagement, and are 50% more productivity. Zak identifies eight management behaviors that foster trust. One of those behaviors is “intentionally building relationships.” Meetings Designed to Build Trust One way to intentionally build relationships is the design of meetings. You can shift the outcome of a meeting by starting with a trust-building activity. This will slow down the primitive (fear-based brain) and allow other parts of the brain to actively engage and shift toward a belief that this will be a good experience. “Knowing others is intelligence, knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.” — Laozi I have seen many meetings start with “ground rules”. The “do’s and don’ts” checklists do not activate the prefrontal cortex-heart brain connection where we have our whole mind, heart, and body invested in the outcome of the meeting. The heart brain is the most basic of our hardwiring. It enables us to connect to others. We are either in sync or out of sync with others. If we are in sync, we move towards the person as friends. If we are out of sync, we feel hesitation and move away, feeling the person may be a foe. The prefrontal cortex is the youngest bring, often called the “Executive Brain”. It provides us with the ability to see the future, create scenarios, and have empathy. How do we engage the prefrontal cortex and heart brains? Start meetings not with “Ground Rules” but “Group Agreements”. Rules close down the brain for some people. If they see “rules” as stifling, just using that word may have them begin the meeting already in a state of opposition. Agreements create a framework for a social contract, which brings people together. Group Agreements Move toward Trust To begin the exploration, ask everyone to identify one practice or behavior that would give this meeting the best outcome. What do we usually hear? “Respect other’s opinions.” “Be open to other ideas”. Here is where this approach is different… when someone using one of those frequently offered words, as a facilitator, use a skill called “double-click”. Just like a computer folder, to open up to deeper meaning, you double-click. Saying something like, “When you say ‘respect’, what does that mean for you?” This helps get to the core essence of what is important for that person. Make sure you hear from everyone in the room. If someone is quiet, reach out to them and ask, “What behaviors are important to you?” You want everyone’s voice and therefore brain activated, moving toward the prefrontal cortex-heart connection. Here is another important distinction from ground rules. Once you have your list, ask people to identify how they can give feedback if a group member is not honoring the agreements. This helps give agency and ownership to the team to be transparent, and supportive to guide the behaviors, that they agreed will create the successful outcomes for the meeting. When you create group agreements using double-clicking and establish collective ownership for monitoring the practice of those agreements, your meeting is primed with the level of trust in the environment that fosters a culture of aspiration. Anything is possible! Stay tuned for more tips to have meaningful conversations that transform leaders and organizations. This is the third in a blog series. Read the first blog at “Listening to Connect” and the second blog at “What We Can Learn from our Worst Conversations.” Photo credit: Rawpixel via Shutterstock.
Academy Update: Upcoming Webcast and Live Chat Vista Leadership Academy, a new Vista Global Coaching & Consulting program, invites you to join founder Mary Stelletello and Academy Class of 2016 Alum Cristina Manfre for a special webcast and live chat Tuesday, May 2, 2017 , from 1 p.m. to 2 p.m. EDT. Get your sneak peek into the Academy and learn how the program’s unique design can help you! You’ll hear Alum Cristina share her transformative journey through the Academy’s online classes, individual coaching sessions, and immersive retreat in Oaxaca, Mexico. Mary will describe the core values and career insights that led her to found the Academy. Please note: Space is limited. The number of registrations will be kept small to help ensure everyone can participate in the live chat Q&A. Don’t miss your chance to ask Mary and Cristina if the Academy is right for you! Hierve el Agua, Oaxaca, Mexico Are you ready to take the lead in your work and life? Applications for the Class of 2017 are being accepted through May 15, 2017. Learn more about our application requirements and register for the webcast.
What We Can Learn from Our Worst Conversations Judith Glaser’s 7-month course on Conversational Intelligence offers new and improved methodologies for effective communication that you can apply to both work and life situations. “Conversations are the social rituals that hold us together, the fabric of culture and society.” — Judith E. Glaser The course section on “Humanizing Conversations” explores how to down-regulate the behaviors that create distrust and up-regulate behaviors that build trust. No matter what we do in our professional lives, trust is the most important element in achieving extraordinary results. Trust is something that I have explored over the last 15 years through leadership development work. I always believed that listening was the most powerful skill to build trust. Conversational Intelligence takes the skill of listening, a step further by providing more texture to “listening.” Glaser uses the concept, “deconstructing conversation” which looks back to look forward. Examine a conversation after the fact to garner new insights. In the first few moments of contact in a conversation, our brain will determine whether to trust the other person. If that impact “feels good,” we will move in the direction of opening up to more interactions. If that impact “feels bad,” we will close down and move into protective mode. In the deconstruction process, here are a few questions for exploration and learning. Was either person addicted to being right? Did you experience the “Tell-Sell-Yell” syndrome? (Tell them once, try to sell them why you are right, then yell!) Did you ask questions that you already knew the answers to? If you said YES to any of these questions, you were operating from the primitive brain (amygdala) pumping cortisol, keeping you in a protected distrust state. So how do you shift from this part of the brain that is being triggered by threatening behaviors? The very first step is to recognize the neurological response and find ways to head off the fears. Understand where the fears may be coming from, work backward to find a solution. How do we sideline these signals from the amygdala? Notice how we react to threats (fight, flight, freeze, appease) Acknowledge this reaction Notice if we always choose the same reaction and how much the threat impacts us Choose an alternative way to react in the moment (mindfulness techniques: breath in, breath out, express how you are feeling) Become more aware of our responses and realize we can override our emotions and shift to other responses Ultimately transform fear into trust Stay tuned for more tips to have meaningful conversations that transform leaders and organizations! This is the second in a blog series. Read the first blog at “Listening to Connect.” Photo credit: Rawpixel via Shutterstock.
